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Changing Perspectives


What if, at the end of the day, we focus on what's holding us together, 
rather than what's tearing us apart?


Do you ever feel like you're just barely holding on? 
...like life couldn't possible get any worse? 

Do you feel like you're running in circles in your relationship and you don't know why?
...like you're constantly fighting about the same things, and nothing ever gets better?


What would happen if you decided to just take a step back for a second and remember?
Really look into her eyes and see the beauty that is your girl. 

Remember why you fell for her in the first place. 
Remember the laugh that only happens when you're around. 
Remember the late night talks spent getting to know one another all those years ago. 
Remember all those little things about her.


And then learn how to love again.

Hold her hand.
Laugh with her.
Hold her softly.
Calm all of her fears..gently. 
Make her know that she is the only girl in your whole world. 
Treat her like you did at the beginning of the relationship.
Tell her that you love her, and mean it. 
Look into her eyes often.
Tell her she's beautiful.
Want her.


...and at the end of the day, remember all that.

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